First, a person was asked by a younger colleague for advice. The colleague was going to marry a lady. He wanted to know how to get along with his new wife.
He recommended to the colleague to mitigate the burden of housekeeping. He recommended to buy a Rumba, equip a dish-washing machine on the kitchen. Any other ways to save time were proposed.
But, the colleague was not satisfied with his advice.
Second, a teacher was engaged in the English language. One Japanese student was learning English words. She did not know the word "foot."
Then, the teacher told her, "Have you heard the word football?"
"Yes, it's soccer," said she.
The teacher said, "So, is footwork?"
"Humm, I have heard it."
"So, would you guess the meaning of the word foot?"
However, the girl could not understand the meaning of the word "foot."
Some audience criticized the teacher's attitude, saying "the girl would have wanted to gain English skills effective to pass the exams. The act of the teacher was waste of time."
What is the common point of the two anecdotes?
In my opinion, any advice requires the preparation of the receiver to be effective.
I believe the first person told an important thing for the better life of the couple. Housekeeping is very tough for both wife and husband. Shortening the time for daily duty will make you happy. But, the colleague was not prepared for imagining the real life after the marriage. Therefore, he could not accept the advice as useful.
In the second episode, the teacher tried to teach the way of thinking to the student. It is quite important, but undervalued in Japan, I think. But, it is uncertain that all students are willing to learn how to think anytime. Especially, when the exam is approaching, most students want to the answer itself rather than the way to the answer, unfortunately.
We all make an advice to others. Regardless of the correctness, it would not be accepted in a bad occasion. We should be aware of it.
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